Life can be lived in many ways. It can be an exciting, joyful and rewarding adventure or it can be full of worry, complaints, fear or just pure boredom. I believe that life should be enjoyed not endured. It should be a magnificent ride where you enjoy as many moments as possible, experience as much as possible and even though it might make you feel uncomfortable at times, when it ends you should be able to say: What a ride that was! Sadly, most people do not see life this ways. As Bob Proctor nicely put it: “Most people tip-toe through life, hoping they make it safely to death.“
What about you? Where you are seated on the roller coaster called life? Are you in the front row? Do you live your life to the fullest? Or are you so far away from the front that you can barely see it? And given the choice where would you like to be?
We all want to live happy, fulfilling life but there seems to be just a few people who really do. These people are brave enough to go after what they want and they are willing to sacrifice some things in order to get there. They are not special people, not super talented people, they are just doing something that the majority of people do not do.
What it is you ask? They consciously design the live they want and they take actions to get there. It’s that simple. If you want to go somewhere you need to know where you are going and take necessary steps to get there. You have to take conscious actions. If you let life to take you wherever it wants take you, you can not be surprised if you end up somewhere where you do not want to be.
So if it’s that simple why doesn’t everyone do it? Because it usually involves change, some sacrifices and trade-offs. And not everyone is willing to pay that price. However, you have to change things in order to change things. There can not be a change without some kind of action.
One of my favorite quotes attributed to Albert Einstein says that “the real definition of insanity is repeating the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”. I think it sums it up perfectly. You will not get where you want to be by doing the things you are doing now. If it would be so, you would be already there. Or, as Tony Robbins said: ” If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”
Getting to the first row
So how does one start living in a first row? How does one change one’s life? By following these six simple (and yet so difficult) steps:
Define where you are now.
Think about your life as it is now. Take stock of major areas of your life such as work, relationships, health/fitness, hobbies etc. Knowing where you are is an essential basis for your future advancement. There comes a time in our lives when we just have to take a hard look at what we are doing and evaluate what is working for us and what is not.
Define what you want aka how does the first row look for you?
This is a crucial step. Almost every single book on success that I studied starts with this. You might be tempted to skip this step and dive into action but don’t! “Vision without action is a daydream. Action without vision is a nightmare”…says one Japanese proverb. You cannot start working on your goals if you don’t know what they are. Maybe you have a dream with capital D or maybe you just want a better life…no matter which one it is be clear on how does end result look like.
Make a plan how to get there.
Once you identify the gap between where you are now and where you want to be you can proceed with making a plan for how to close the gap. Start with specific end result in mind and create an action plan with concrete steps that will take you there. You can either start by listing all the steps to be taken and assigning them some target date which will give you an idea about when you will achieve your goal or you can work backwards, set a target date and work the steps and timing from there. Whichever approach you choose, be realistic and include some time for relaxation.
The most perfect plan without execution is worthless.
Take the steps, achieve the results and succeed.
Keep track of how much you already accomplished and what are the steps you still need to execute. Take time to celebrate your achievements. Also, make sure that the end result you are working on is still relevant for you. Sometimes, we change and our dreams change as well. Do not pursue something that doesn’t have a meaning for you anymore.
Do not give up and persevere.
The chances are it is going to be difficult, the chances are you are going to fail, partially or completely, you might feel uncomfortable, you might want to quit and get back to your old life. Do not give up! Think about the reward at the end: happy, healthy, fulfilled and better you.
And most importantly…do not forget to enjoy the process! You will spend majority of your time achieving the goal so you should enjoy yourself while taking the journey.
Have a ride of our life!